Do you ever get the feeling that your feet are stuck in the mud and that your dreams have yet to materialize? If so rest assured, you’re not alone although this realization should provide you with no solace. Your life is the one that you’ve built and what others have done with theirs has no bearing on yours. Stop comparing yourself to others!
Even if your decision-making and focus skills are weak, you are not out of the game. Maybe your just on the disabled list? Even the greatest of professional athletes find themselves watching from the sideline from time to time. Your dreams are not dead until you give up. A mentor once told me that old is when your dreams become your regrets. Are you old or simply exhausted by your efforts that simply don’t hit the mark?
From this day forward, remove the word mediocre from your vocabulary. You are not mediocre unless you say you are. No one can bestow that title upon you without your permission. Is it mediocre that your heart beats over 2.5 billion times in your lifetime, that you learn a language and use it to express your love, that bone fractures some how heal, that you comfort another to help soften their pain, that you work to provide stability for your family? I think not.
How you feel and how you think about things has been conditioned by the opinions of others. Perhaps you weren’t fortunate enough to have parents that understood the impact of their words and actions upon your life’s outcome. The same can be said about your school teachers, your coaches, your relationships and your social network. Pain and frustration may be all around you so why swim in a stagnant pond when you can dip your tootsies in the blue Caribbean ocean?
It’s time that you found a mentor; someone to show you what you have struggled to see on your own. Everything you need to live an amazing life is already within you but perhaps you need a lens specialist to help you see what you’ve been missing. I like to call a mentor, an optometrist of life. They help you to see yourself and your choices with greater clarity so that you can regain control and fan the flames within.
I find it insane to listen to others whose tree of life is barren of fruit. A good mentor leads by example and can help you to polish your attitude. Consider your attitude like a paintbrush and with it you can paint your life as dark and gloomy or bright and cheery. It’s your call. Finding a mentor that makes a good fit in your life may seem hard at first. I suspect that when you find the right one you will feel an overwhelming sense of excitement of what your life could be rather than what it is in the present moment. This is when you realize that perhaps the dream is not dead but rather you have been going about things all wrong. My first mentor wasn’t someone that I knew personally. His name was Earl Nightingale and his audio book called Lead the Field started to help me on a journey of personal development that continues today.
If you think that you can do it alone, then have at it. If there is one thing that I have learned on my journey is that no one can do it alone. We all need help and when 2 people get together in fellowship both lives are touched. As a physician for almost 30 years, I can tell you that it’s been the patients who have healed the doctor. Life is going to beat you up along the way but it will also hand you the keys to the kingdom of happiness if you let it. There can’t be one without the other.
Love is the underlying operating system (like the Mac OS X) that the human brain thrives on. Keeping malware out (negative thinking) is something that a mentor can help you with. Find a mentor today and when you’re ready, become a mentor for someone else. The circle of life!
Remember, you’re not done. If you were, you’d be dead already. There is more to come and I encourage you to rise up and be the person that you were meant to be. Not the person that you think the world wants you to be.
Dr. Peter Percuoco is a Board Certified Chiropractic Neurologist and a Keynote Speaker. With 30 years of experience, Dr. Percuoco has stepped out of the clinic and onto the stage to share his message of hope and potential inspiring people to be the best that they can be.